Speaking of LOVE...

Hey All!

My new book Superhero of Love: Heal Your Broken Heart & Then Go Save the World came out in January from Conari Press!  I haven't stopped living my Lazy Woman life -- lazy being a good four letter word -- more joy and love and less stress!

Just had to post an "I Love You Trader Joe's" posts for all the beauty available there these days.

After you are done exploring this beauty, go sign up for Superhero of Love updates at superherooflove.com.  See you there!

Lazy Woman Extraordinaire: Kathy Eldon's Guide to Loss

Kathy Eldon has always been one of my heroes.  Now, I identify her as an honest to got Superhero of Love.  Check out my Huffington Post piece about her. 

She's a superhero and she's also Lazy, i.e., she has her priorities straight -- following her heart and inner guidance every step of the navigation through an extraordinary loss. 

Click on the link for inspiration for yourself or perhaps others who might benefit greatly from her book In the Heart of Life.

Valentine's Eve!

We delivered the Love Scarves today...it was the most heart-warming Valentine's happening ever. The patients were so grateful, and some we hear smiled for the first time in a long time. We met a young woman who lives in Minneapolis who has 9 month old twins. She, like a lot of the patients at City of Hope are so far away from their families.

It was one of the most heart-warming days I've ever had. It wasn't an easy day but it was so moving. There were lots of smiles and laughs too, one of which happened in the car ride home with my friend Nina, whose Volvo wagon proved most appropriate transportation mode for the big baskets of scarves.

We were talking about the topic of the week: LOVE. Nina has known me since college and was saying how she felt for me being on the dating scene. Then she said the most hilarious thing "I did the Lazy Love thing...I married someone I met in college...how lazy of me!"

They have the coolest marriage, so that proves it: Lazy Love is the best! Can't marry my college sweetheart because he's unbelievably, exquisitely happily married, but I shall find my version of Lazy Love!

Spent the evening making tags and putting them on the ONE HUNDRED SEVENTY FIVE scarves and hats that came in for the Love Scarf Project. Delivery happens tomorrow at 11 a.m. so tonight was the final delivery evening with friends dropping by with their deliveries. My house was aglow with love...a glow that makes all the lights seem brighter, makes everything look clean and shiny, and just makes even the coldest night seem warm, warm, warm. Wow oh wow love is good.

It comes in so many forms. And, on Valentine's Eve Ever....just for now... romantic love for me is just a source of entertaining stories for my friends!!!

Love Love Love Lazy Love

On the Lazy Love scene...My day started with my friend Allison (a man...it's an old English name) thinks I should give the guy who has two kids another shot. He really does seem great, but I would be third on his list: kids, career and then me... Allison has a new baby and a toddler so he's fully enamored with fatherhood and thinks it's the greatest thing since sliced bread. I've never really wanted to have kids, was never sure, and am happy that I don't have them.

Because I don't have kids I can do things like organize projects that give in different ways like the Love Scarf Project. I am the person who SHOULD be organizing projects like this. I do it well and I can do it the Lazy Way, i.e., it doesn't stress me out, it gives me a whole lot of joy. With kids, I'm sure I wouldn't have the time or energy to do things like this, so I am grateful.

I also get a lot of love from these projects. Tonight three women came over with bags full of scarves and hats they had knit. One woman, Dawn, knit her very first scarf for this project, and she did it with so much love. The other two women are awe-inspiring expert knitters who knitted with just as much love, and remembering people they had lost to cancer. The love was palpable. I hope the patients who get their scarves and hats can feel even the tiniest inkling of the love that I felt in my home tonight from these women.

Knitting for others is such a feel-good activity. You think of the person you are knitting for while you create their gift, which makes you feel good. It's relaxing -- even for me, and I am a total and utter dweeb with knitting needles --- and it's heart-warming. I think the Lazy answer to battling economic woes is to go and get some cheap yarn on sale and knit something for someone less fortunate than ourselves.

In this Valentine Time, I say love is a really wonderful lazy way to to get happy.

I am doing a little project right now -- The Love Scarf Project -- where I'm gathering hand-knitted scarves and hats for patients at the City of Hope. (You can check it out at lovescarf.blogspot.com) Tonight I had to pick up a very beautiful crocheted hat from a friend of a friend. You gotta love life because there really are no mistakes...synchronicities abound in the most beautiful of ways. This friend of a friend is a kindred spirit, a Lazy sister of sorts. Shannen is my age - 46, and also has never been married. And she's amazing and beautiful and a real catch! And, she has a great Lazy attitude toward finding love, which I needed a serious dose of today. She's just living life to the fullest and letting love come to her, expecting it to shimmy up to her side and say "hey I want you." And, I know it will because she has such a stellar, magnetic attitude. I am so grateful to my friend Sa for introducing us. She was just what the love doctor ordered! And, now I have a buddy to go out on the town with ... it's very Lazy to go out with magnetic women!

Just this morning, I was bemoaning the fact that I can't catch a break with my online dating exploits. I've been giving it the ol' college try and whining to myself (and then to a friend on the phone when my own listening skills didn't prove good enough): "Why for the love of god am I not getting what I want." I heard myself whining like a child, having an adult tantrum. I was embarassing myself, even though I was alone in my kitchen. I looked down at my feet to make sure they weren't stomping. Then I called a friend, let it all out, and with her help, committed to getting back on the love court to throw some more balls, and have FUN! My god if the road to love isn't fun, get off the road.

I just take myself and my pursuits so seriously sometimes. Being goal oriented is great, but throwing a little Lazy into the equation is a good idea. The Lazy I need to throw into my dating life is FUN. I need to let go of my attachment to the results, and just go out with Shannen and have some fun!

NOTE: An email popped into my box after I wrote that paragraph. An old friend asking me out on a date with the priceless last line: "You're such a hot lazy girl..."

Can we talk about SYNCHRONICITIES? And, can we talk about the instant results we get when we let go of expectations, a genuinely Lazy pursuit by the way!

Stay tuned for more Lazy Love news...and don't worry I'm going to give you the cheap, easy, unbelievably Lazy secret to gorgeous, youthful skin....when the mood strikes me!

love love love to you all,

Bridget